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|Posted: Thu 14:20, 10 Oct 2013 Post subject: abercrombie pas cher Spousal Emotional Abuse - How
"Here's your monthly allowance, dear. It's yours to spend as you wish."... "By the way, please write a check to cover..." "And while you're at it, I'd like to review your checkbook to see how you are spending the rest." Sound familiar?
"Financial abuse" is the customary name for this form of spousal [url=http://www.gotprintsigns.com/abercrombiepascher/]abercrombie pas cher[/url] emotional abuse. It's one of the popular power and control tactics used to foster dependency and dominance in intimate relationships. Essentially, it violates one's personal autonomy and emotional integrity.
Controlling Men and Money
Why do controlling men use money to control their financially un-empowered female partners? ANSWER: Because they can. No, seriously, they think they need their spouse's financial dependence upon them. It adds to their sense of relationship security.
From their perspective, it's their money anyway. And they know you need some, want some and have no other means to attract any. So they enjoy the privilege of holding this green carrot in front of you in order to keep you in line.
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Can intimate relationships characterized by financial abuse become relationships of mutual honoring and respect when it comes to money? ANSWER: Yes, with the right treatment intervention.
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This is not a deal-breaker. Trust that your partner can see the relevance of a domestic abuse intervention as a result of the treatment. That is, in the course of the intervention, the abuse/control dynamics you are dealing with can become crystal clear to both of you. (Even better...the door will open to see and remedy the multitude of other power and control strategies used in your relationship.) [url=http://www.ilyav.com/uggsoldes.php]ugg pas cher[/url] Leave [url=http://www.mnfruit.com/doudounemoncler.php]moncler pas cher[/url] that part up to the intervention itself and instead focus on how you can help your partner to see your need for personal counseling.
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